YOU MIGHT NOT WANT TO STOP SMOKING NOW BUT YOU COULD STOP SOON EASILY

DO YOU (OR YOUR) FRIENDS WANT TO STOP SMOKING EASILY & SOON?

If you are a smoker you already know the risks and benefits so I won’t bore you but I might surprise you.

Friends who still smoke say saving money is the key.  And then wanting to be free and feel healthier without the extra stress of the damage the habit causes. A ten a day smoker can save £1250 a year a 20 a day smoker can save £2500 that £10,000 in 5 years.

You may not be ready to change the habit YET but when you are remember this message and call/email 07931424905 change@patricklilley.com  OR reserve a session for next month now

http://londoncognitivehypnotherapy.simplybook.me/index/about

SAVE £75 ON SESSIONS - COGNITIVE HYPNOTHERAPY CAN HELP YOU STOP MORE EASILY

Cognitive Hypnotherapy are enjoyable experiences that can make stopping a lot easier. Especially if you learn great new ways to relax and deal with stress. I use the latest techniques of NLP and Positive Psychology with Eastern breathing and meditation techniques to help make change more enjoyable.

Free of the slavery of smoking and having more money to spend on holidays, clothes or your home you may also feel more confident knowing you have stopped.

You will benefit from more energy in ALL your activities and just enjoy breathing more and remove the stress of worrying about an additional health risk. 

Allen Carr the Stop Smoking guru himself actually stopped a one hundred cigarette a day habit with just Hypnotherapy and NOT by using his own method! His book is brilliant, you can get it on kindle or kindle for windows and it’s a useful preparation for my sessions with you. Just name a date and save £75 if you make your booking with friend or before the end of September

SAVE £75 NOW ON 3.5 HOURS OF HYPNOTHERAPY

3 session package deal (don’t stop till 2^nd session?) is £299 per person but if you book before the end of Sept

 OR 

if 2 people book and let me know - you each save £75.

You can stop at the first session if you want to. I won’t stop you stopping then BUT many prefer have a pre stopping session and then chose their quit date with me

LIMITED SESSIONS - BOOK NOW FOR NEXT WEEK OR NEXT MONTH FOR MORE CHOICE IN APPOINTMENT TIMES

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SCIENTIFIC DAILY

Reported a 2007study which showed that patients who had just one session were “three timesmore likely” to have stopped 6 months later, than those who used NicotineReplacement Patches.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/10/071022124741.htm

NEW SCIENTIST

 “Hypnosis is the most effective way of giving up smoking, according to the largest ever scientific comparison of ways of breaking the habit..”

http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg13618450.700-how-one-in-five-have-given-up-smoking.html

HEALTH ISSUES FOR GAY MEN

Many gay/bi men smoke more drink more alcohol and often take more drugs and experience challenges to self-esteem, shame/pride issues, engage in more risky behaviours. Smoking can have serious adverse effects for people living with diabetes, heart disease, hiv or other health conditions. I am here to help.

I hope to be able to help you learn to to take control, relax and feel self-confident. 

I also work with clients who wish to get on better with people better, experience more rapport both at work or socially or romantically, and people who want to reduce anxiety, learn great ways to deal with stress, sleep better, lose weight or generally just want to feel happier.

I was a smoker for 25 years and first quit with hypnotherapy too.

Retrained and having worked with over 450 clients, I now use many techniques to help myself and clients deal with stress, quit alcohol change other unwanted habits and become more confident and happier.

A free phone consultation will allow you to decide if I am the right coach/therapist for you.

You may already be ready to change this or other unwanted behaviours or patterns of thinking so call/email 07931424905 change@patricklilley.com  for a free phone consultation and pre session questionnaire.

Thank you for reading this.  

I am planning some workshops in Central London:  What themes within health and wellness could be addressed?  Managing Diabetes?  Stopping Smoking?  Self Confidence?  Changing unwanted behaviours?  Please leave a comment ?  Will draft some short articles on each prospective topic.  Wishing you all the best mental and physical health. Patrick Lilley 07931424905 change@patricklilley.com

Only just saw this very thoughtful article on Addiction Today by Sarah Graham from a  few years ago on a Facebook post.

"Mainstream services" appear not yet to be as aware or sensitive to the specific needs of their LGBT clients as much as we might hope.  If you feel you would like to make positive changes in your life there are a number of places to reach out to in addition to an LGBT focused/affirmative coach and therapist like myself.

But before I post that link (its at the bottom of this post) I'd like to say that there are many routes to recovery but talking to someone is a good start.  Admitting that there is/has been a problem is and taking a decision to reach out for help could follow swiftly.

 If you have an issue with an addictive behaviour (gay apps, gambling, sex with strangers, risky behaviours) or substances (alcohol, recreational drug use, smoking or food) you have probably been worrying about it for some time. If you are ready to take action now get in touch. If you imagine there will be a time you need help then bookmark this page and come back to it a few times. As much as we can learn a habit that once we imagined helped us feel good, we can find new habits and behaviours that can provide a lasting sense of contentment and pleasure instead of increasingly short term pleasure mixed with increasing amounts of shame or regrets.

Habits are just that habits.  Its a behaviour its not you as a person.  You are far more than the sum of your behaviours.  Forgive yourself past behaviours and more forward.

Please make contact either via Email change@patricklilley.com  or Google LGBT Counselling and a range or services should appear.

 If you would like to talk to someone please text me on 07931424905 with a few words about your situation and goal.

I am usually able to return calls within 24/48 hours.  I have experienced addiction issues like many llesbian and gay people. I can offer hope, help and support:  if you want to change your life, you can.

Every journey starts with one step.  You may have many hidden resources inside you that you might not be aware of yet.  I may be able to help you find them.  And there are many people also willing to help and support you.  

Wishing you the best mental and physical health.

Patrick

August 31, 2009

DEATH BY DIVERSITY?

WORKING WITH THE LGBT COMMUNITY

Lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender services are a rarity, reports Sarah Graham. At the same time, where gay clubs go, straight ones usually follow – and they are succumbing to crystal meth.

http://www.addictiontoday.org/addictiontoday/2009/08/death-by-diversity.html

LGBT Counselling to combat excessive drinking, smoking or drug use?

Do you ever feel isolated or unhappy ? Would you like to talk to a professional about it? 

We all have off days but many people those off days can or have become the default setting.  Did you know that up to 1/4 people may experience poor mental health in any one year. (*1).  

A disproportionate number of those will be gay or bisexual men. Good mental health is not simply the absence of diagnosable mental health problems, although good mental health is likely to help protect against development of many such problems. 

 Mental health or well-being is defined as a state of well-being in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community.

It is all too clear from the Stonewall report on gay (and bisexual) Men's Health that our community faces not just a huge challenge in terms of sexual health but the elephant in the room is mental health.  (see link at the bottom of page).

What does this mean to gay & bisexual men?

A recent edition of Attitude, the UK’s best-selling gay magazine, is focusing on the sensitive – and often taboo – issue of mental health problems in gay men.

13% gay and bisexual men are currently experiencing moderate to severe levels of mixed depression and anxiety. 


Other factors that may contribute to poor mental health include bullying, homophobia and general and sexual health issues including HIV, body image, living alone or separation from family or friends or retirement from working.  

Excessive drinking, drugging or unhealthy sexual relationships or smoking may also affect physical and mental health even when the intention is to feel better by "partying."  

In addition to the challenges of gay life in a straight world, gay men also are more concerned about body image, self confidence and self esteem, phobias, motivation and weight loss etc but experience them in a slightly different way to most straight men.

Most gay men experience growing up knowing they were "different." Dealing with that and the process (often ongoing) of coming out and rejection by  friends, colleagues, families and communities often leads to gay men to leave home area to express themselves more fully in the big cities or further from home in other countries.

The advances in laws on equality in the UK are great strides forward yet the fact they are needed to limit prejudice and inequality are a reminder that we are not all born equal.   The persecution of gay men in other societies also reminds us that our new found liberties and equalities are not universal human rights enjoyed by all around the world or even outside the big cities in the UK.  Northern Ireland has still to enact key equality laws.  In the era of the instant contact social apps it seems many gay men are experiencing greater isolation and challenges to their self esteem and well being. Isolation can be both a cause and a consequence of poor mental health.

As an LGBT Therapist with several years working in London both in private practice and working with LGBT mental health charities its clear we need to acknowledge what is happening and take the first steps to combating anxiety, depression and isolation. 

London's gay scene (community?) is glued by sex, alcohol and increasingly by drugs.  (In my own career in event management I do my best to create safe and friendly environments (including in clubs) for people to meet other safely. I am astonished that there are so few place for gay people to meet that are not based around drinking alcohol.  Its no surprise that isolation is an increasing issue for gay and bisexual men.  It can affrect teenager, twenty or thirty somethings or old gay men.

If you imagine that by talking to a professional counsellor and therapist you can begin to combat isolation, learn new techniques that increase your sense of well being and even increase your self esteem then get in touch.  Talk to friends and family too if you can.

While medication is often prescribed as a standard response increasingly talking therapies (meditation, cognitive behaviour therapy, cognitive hypnotherapy and counselling) are helping more and more.  
Both the NHS and private health care have shortage of out gay therapists working within the NHS who understand the nuances and challenges of life as a gay man in London.  Would you feel confident of asking to access an LGBT therapist or counsellor via the NHS?

In my private practice I can help by listening to your concerns and working with you on your own plan to help you feel happier, more content, how to relax and sleep better and generally improve your sense of wellness that can lead to greater social interaction that can combat isolation and poor mental health. 

If you would like to arrange a FREE call back to assess you needs and if a course of coaching, counselling or cognitive hypnotherapy is right for you please get in touch. Good therapy happens when there is good rapport between client and therapist, a set of excellent skills and techniques and a shared positive intention to achieve the clients goals. The first step is to make contact and begin to imagine what your goal is from counselling, coaching or therapy.

Make contact

You can reach me by email change@patricklilley.com or call or text Patrick on 07931 424 905 (24 hours). You can visit the main site 24 hours where there is FAQ page and testimonials.  If the appropriate chat window is open we may even be able to chat live so visit my site below just in case. (It can be found on the home page). 
I am usually able to return your call within 48 hours.  If I am with a client or unavailable please leave a message, your name and a few words about your goal and best time to call you back.

Thank you for reading this wishing you the best of physical and mental health,
Patrick Lilley
http://www.londoncognitivehypnotherapy.co.uk/help/lgbt-friendly-therapy/
References:
*1 http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/help-information/mental-health-statistics/
*2 http://www.stonewall.org.uk/documents/stonewall_gay_mens_health_final_1.pdf

LGBT Smoking Drinking and Druging too much - Need help to change?

Two thirds of gay and bisexual men have smoked at some time in their life comparedto half of men in general. (A later post will look at lesbian and bisexual women's health in relation to drinking, smoking and alcohol).

A quarter of gay and bisexual men currently smoke compared to 22 per cent of men in general.

More than two in five (42 per cent) gay and bisexual men drink alcohol on three or more days a week compared to 35 per cent of men in general

Half of gay and bisexual men have taken drugs in the last year compared to justone in eight men in general.

Read more about LGBT health research at Stonewall.

http://www.healthylives.stonewall.org.uk/lgb-health/gay-and-bisexual-men/default.aspx

If you would like to change your behaviour, stop smoking or become healthier in other ways.  Ask yourself, your wise self,  what is the positive intention of  those unwanted behaviours? Is it the actual behaviour you want or does/did the behaviour get something for you (a good feeling etc).

I can work with you to identify those positive intentions and assist in generating new behaviours that are consistent with your health and well being that could achieve the positive intention of the part of you responsible for those unwanted behaviours but in (new) ways that are consistent with your personality, personal ecology and overall well being.   

Call Patrick 07931424905 or email change@patricklilley.com

  

LGBT Coaching Counselling and Therapy in London

Hello my name is Patrick Lilley and  I am based in central London.  I offer a range of confidential LGBT affirmative "talking" therapies  including Coaching, Counselling, NLP & Cognitive Hypnotherapy.  All are welcome.

You can call or text  07931 424 905 (24hrs) to arrange a call back or simply email  for a pre session questionnaire: change@patricklilley.com \

Please include a few words about your situation and goals.

I can usually offer your initial FREE assessment session within 1 to 15 days usually just a few days and then the start of your sessions within 2 weeks - often sooner.

Over the last 3 and half  years I have helped over 300 clients with a wide range of issues: increasing self confidence (dating, job interview, exams), achieve more and more frequent feelings of well being and self acceptance, effective help changing unwanted habits, teaching relaxation techniques to cope with stress and anger, s well as treating insomnia, phobias, stopping smoking. LGBT community experiences far greater challenges  in terms of addiction/addictive behaviours (drink, drug, sex or internet, social apps) many peope benefit from support  around sexual and relationship issues. 

Clients ages have ranged from 18 to mid 70s and include LGBT, heterosexual or questioning and from a range of cultural backgrounds.  

I offer a safe and confidential setting for you to achieve your full potential. Others just want a short series of sessions to have a independent person to discuss their situation as they find their own solution to their issue or problem.

You are reading this for a reason and if  you are unhappy about something in your life and now want to do something about it you have reached the right place. 

If you are mapping a goal in how you want to live your life and need support, I am here to help.

Please call to arrange a free 1:1 assessment session over the phone or face to face to discuss your needs and goal  and how I can help.  Email change@patricklilley.com or call 07931424905 (you can text out of office hours if you wish) just say a few words about your goal and include your contact details and availability for call back.

Are you sitting comfortably as this may take up to 5 minutes to read. It might change your life forever or that of a friend, loved one or your child. Please don’t smoke while reading this.

Did you know that New Scientist magazine reported that hypnotherapy was the most successful way of quitting smoking? And new figures suggest that fewer and fewer adults in Britain now smoke. Would you like to be one of them again?

Remembering now that we were all non smokers once!

While doing further research about smoking and quitting I discovered that nearly two-thirds of smokers in Britain want to give up, according to new figures re-published in March 2011 by Cancer Research UK originally from the Office for National Statistics (ONS).

I’d imagine on a straight forward survey that is very accurate. However digging a bit deeper I would also imagine there are  parts or many of us who would say yes to the questionnaire.  But when you are about to light up to smoke, another  part of you that doesn’t want to quit right then or not. Confused about stopping?

I write more on how Cognitive Hypnotherapy addresses those parts and uses your own unconscious resources to help you change your behaviour in regards to smoking further in this article.

Are you now one of them?

The ‘Smoking and Drinking Among Adults 2009′ report shows that 63 per cent of smokers want to give up, with 25 per cent planning to do so within the next 12 months.

In addition a huge, 57 per cent of smokers admitted it would be hard to go for even a day without lighting up. This is where the different techniques of Cognitive Hypnotherapy and NLP can help: from anchoring states or calm and satisfaction to more extreme methods like aversion therapy the Cognitive Hypnotherapy tool box is ready for your use.  Those are just two.

We also look at the context and history of your previous smoking: when you smoked more, when less, what will YOU gain when you quit (better health? financially save money? less worry from family and friends?  Avoid going to hospital?  There will be less chance of being one of the 1.5 million people with smoking related illness each year needing medical treatment.

Cognitive Hypnotherapy uses specifically what motivates YOU to help you, because each person’s mind works in its own way. This is because we are all unique and Cognitive Hypnotherapy does not offer standard scripts to quit but offers each client their own personal treatment plan. Central to Cognitive Hypnotherapy is Wordweaving. Its is a system of delivering helpful suggestions during light trance that helps harness your hidden and unconscious resources for the goals you seek to achieve.  In addition we also can use therapeutic techniques to ally the parts of you that want to quit with the parts of you that might not fully want to yet.  

The report mentioned above provides lots of hope for would-be quitters, as it shows that 25 per cent of adults who took part in the survey in 2009 once smoked but had managed to kick the habit. So a huge number of people have now stopped.  And as New Scientist magazine has reported in the biggest study of its kind, hypnosis and hypnotherapy have the most successful track record.

The survey also found that the percentage of adults who do not smoke has risen from just 55 per cent in 1974 to 79 per cent in 2009.

Why do most people stop smoking?

ONS statistician Anne Foulger revealed that health concerns are top of the list for most smokers who want to give up. She noted that 83 per cent of would-be quitters mentioned at least one health reason when asked about their motivation for quitting.

“After health the next most commonly mentioned reasons are the costs of smoking (31 per cent), the effect on children (22 per cent) and family pressure (16 per cent),” she added.

As a former heavy smoker for 20 years I used standard hypnotherapy on my successful journey to quitting.  However I also know that there was still part of me that wanted or imagined benefits in still smoking, especially just in that moment I grabbed a cigarette unconsciously.

This is where Cognitive Hypnotherapy is unique.  We look at the parts of you that want to quit and also seeking to address that part that may not yet want to quit.  This makes Cognitive Hypnotherapy and NLP a unique and very successful way of changing behaviours (and not just smoking).   We help you stop; we cannot force anyone to stop.  But we can nudge and help you acknowledge those parts of you who may still want to do it and work with those parts not against them.

Ultimately Cognitive Hypnotherapy helps you tap into your vast unconscious resources to help you achieve your goals. That is where the magic lies.

The techniques we use are equally valid to help change other unwanted behaviours or patterns of thought and I have worked successfully with clients who wish to stop using Marijuana and Alcohol.

Smoking is an addiction for most people.  It is one of the most dangerous in the world. So if you want to quit or discuss how Cognitive Hypnotherapy can help you stop smoking now, just call or text me to arrange to talk. Think about your health and your financial goals in quitting and what you want to avoid happening if you continue to smoke. I can help with that craving.

As I wrote at the start New Scientist magazine found that hypnotherapy was the most popular way of successfully quitting this habit in a study of 70,000 people around the world?

Now if you want to remove that craving for tobacco now in a healthy and financially rewarding way then text me  on  07931424905 with your name and the words PART OF ME WANTS TO STOP SMOKING NOW in the subject line or text  with your number and name and I will reply swiftly to arrange to talk.

And are you ready now to be a non-smoker again?

And what do you want to have happen now?

Call or text now for help in stopping smoking with London Cognitive Hypnotherapy now

Tel 07931424905 Email  change@patricklilley.com